• Freedom to Fail

  Filed under loving to get high syndrome
  Jun 8

  One of the best things that we can give our kids is the Freedom to Fail. In failure they will find success; their own success. This success will be hard fought, well deserved, something that they can be proud of. But it comes from their willingness to deal with the choices and consequences connected to their use of a MAC. (Mood Altering Chemical) More accurately, this success will happen, if we, as parents, allow them to fail.

   Our son who “loves to get high” has been hugely successful in his own way and on his own terms. His first year out of high school, he was enrolled in college. We were paying for his books and tuition. He was getting up in the morning and leaving, but he wasn’t attending classes; at all. After we figured this out, we asked him get a job, pay $200 a month in rent or to move out. He moved out. We stopped paying for his car insurance and cell phone. It was time for him to learn how much it was going to cost to live on his own.

   Since that time his success has been by his own initiative. He’s now 24. He’s grown up, paid his bills, cleaned up his credit, held down a job for years and started his own business. He made all of this happen independent of us and our financial support. We gave him the freedom to fail. In this failure he has found success.

   At the time, the emotions connected to this situation were hard to deal with. It caused a lot of stress. We started asking ourselves, “are we doing the right thing? Will he survive without our help? Will he resent us for doing this?” He actually started to flourish. He’s thankful that we pushed him out of the nest.

   We need to remember, it is their life, and it will be their success when they put it all together. At the same time we will be honoring them as individuals. Freedom is usually a very important value for a young person. By allowing them to make choices, we honor their desire for freedom. The Freedom to Succeed!

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  This is some text prior to the author information. You can change this text from the admin section of WP-Gravatar  "Loving to Get High" is the root of adolescent addiction. If the "love for getting high" has over-taken your kid's life, you'll be the last to know, they'll keep it a secret. As a parent, Life Coach and Prevention Specialist, I'm here to help you discover if this is happening with your teen. Please e-mail me at coacht@usinternet.com Let's begin this discussion. About the author.

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One Response to “Freedom to Fail”

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   Marcia Erickson said on June 10th, 2009 at 1:25 pm

   Hi Tim,

   I’ve been reading your posts…keep up the writing…good thoughts and great conversation.

   Please greet Karen and your mom for me.

   Blessings,
   marcia

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